How to Restore Relations After being scolded

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  How to Restore Relations After being scolded

1. Find Causes of Anger 
                                 2. Do not Run from Mistakes
                                                  3. Find the solution together to fix errors
               4. Do not Repeat the Same Mistakes
                                    5. Avoid Meeting for a while
                                                            6. divert the topic of conversation
                 7. Do not ever Focus to the mistakes
                                                     8. made promise to correct errors
                  9. Do not Affected by Other Party

How to Restore Relations After being scolded

How to Restore Relations After being scolded

based on the knowledge I have gained from personal experience and read articles and books,
I try to share, please read the following article:

 
1. Find Causes of Anger

Someone who is angry with us of course there is the reason,impossible suddenly someone
came and immediately scolded us,try to find the cause.if leaders are angry with
the results of our work,look for what caused the error occurred, and explained to him.


usually someone mad because ownership and the responsibility for what we do, whether
it's leaders, parents or co-workers.if it happens quickly find the cause of the anger,
if necessary,before he angrily tell the truth cause of the error.


a leader, parent, co-worker or officer has any idea what to do if something goes wrong,
it usually happened that caused the anger he did not know the cause of these errors occur,
while he worried the next result.

so the best move as one who gets angry, think quietly, do not be quick to take decisions
on their own, opens the causes of anger and search for solutions
shared or collective agreements to anticipate the result of the error.


2. Do not Run from Mistakes

one of the causes that will make a person more angry is when someone is angry with us,
we went straight from someone who scold us, which will make the person more angry,
but that does not mean we should not avoid someone who is angry, if circumstances
allow us finish, we finish as soon as possible, the point should not develop into
acts of violence that goes against the law.

someone who is angry hope what he said is understood by us, so it's good just
listen to what he says even though he says with emotion or he said politely
but hurts our hearts.

but if once we face will hurt us and make a hurt,
even result in acts of violence, it is better to avoid the hot-tempered,
but do not we run away from the mistakes that led to his anger.

we wait until the emotion subsides him down, then we face again.


3. Find the solution together to fix errors

Many a person will be angry just because of what happened will make worry his job
in the office, or other social influences, so as someone who is being scolded.

we immediately tell the cause and consequence analysis,
we provide the best solution and the results together of the discussions

To do this will not be easy, especially as we face the more we respect, leaders,
husbands or parents. Friends of readers all back to our intentions,
lowered our hearts let us honor those who gave an opinion and should never interrupt
the opinion that he conveyed but be a good listener.

After all is explained, ask to him to give your the opportunity to give an opinion,
but if he does not want, and if he does not agree with our opinion, of course,
for what we force something if it hurts us, so better avoid him and follow the rules.


4. Do not Repeat the Same Mistakes

Cause of rage happens is we do activities that have been banned many times we repeat yet again,

surely someone would be annoyed with us, so immediately change our attitude and try not
to do again the cause of the error.

It is difficult if your actions have become a habit, this is our wisdom to handle  anger person

Convey well that what we are doing is difficult to
omitted because it will happen again, if you want to change requires substantial time,
such as smoking, and many others.


all ties back to both parties,if the rules of your workplace does not allow smoking,
try not to smoke as much as possible and explain before the work is accepted,
so that there is no compulsion on both sides that would harm either party.



5. Avoid Meeting for a while

One of the best solutions when it's done is to avoid meeting yelled directly with someone
who scold us, not avoided,
but rather aims to soothe their emotions,
because if they were both emotions there will be no best solution for both parties.


No one won and lost in the event of anger,
because anger is an attitude to face the experiences to what will happen,

when the attitude in question is not able to cope
and worried will result makes emotions rise,

So the good news first calm emotions by doing activities that we like,
after a quiet discover new question.



6. divert the topic of conversation

if the circumstances do not allow us to avoid to calm emotions,

should change the subject, of course, with the agreement of both parties,

because if only one who changed the subject will result in one party getting emotions escalate,

impressed not appreciated.

try to make a deal with an angry person is to not discuss what caused his anger

then spoke to another topic,
not intended to avoid the problem,
if the intention is only to avoid the problems of course one day it would be angry person.

when emotions have subsided or down emotions,
let's take the discussion by not imposing the reasons each side, so that will make the emotions
come back, remember searching for solutions not enlarge the issues.



7. Do not ever Focus to the mistakes

Anger someone will become more mad because he focuses on the fault is not the solution,
so we as a people are scolded, quickly find a solution of the consequences of such errors,
Do not just focus only discuss the error.

when scolded, it helps us also to act decisively against the scolding us,
because of the tendency of angry people are always looking for fault,
so for him to stop talking and focus on the solution directly say not my fault,
because the error has occurred.

essentially do not create circumstances when anger occurs we focus on mistakes
but a quick search of the solution error.



8. made promise to correct errors


The easiest one is the avoidance of anger immediately promised to fix the error but
if we can not ability,
not be forced and must not promise.

angry person usually desires is not achieved and we have not been able to carry it out,


so be sure to concerned we can not or can not, so he can take other actions,

remember someone who is more likely to be above the influence we can scold us,
so it's good to say what it is, do not promise what we can improve.



9. Do not Affected by Other Party

Avoid the other when we are scolded, because the result will be double and multiple,
third parties may not accept our scolded,
or a third party who scold us exacerbate the situation.

so it's good to take that angry with us talking together without any other party,
if only there must be,
make sure they do not come to talk or give certain cues.

remember the usual problems will turbid due to third party interference that does not know
the problem.

just wanted to say the right feel.


Friends of the reader, a little writing me to restore relations after someone yelled,
even then if we want to restore the relationship, if not better
go away from the angry proficiency level and do not meet again, meet only in the next ...



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